It was supposed to be a nice, relaxing
Memorial Day weekend for Tina and me. But the news about the Brain
Aneurysm of my youngest sister Mila turned it into the most depressing and
stressful couple of days of my life.
The unusual
increase of my blood pressure, inability to do my daily chores that include
browsing and reacting to updates on Facebook and responding to emails virtually
made me “inutile”, unproductive, and helpless.
Thanks to Tina who calmed me down, and
who handled all the communications with Christina (our niece) and Claudia
(Mila’s daughter) regarding Mila’s situation.
We
learned that while happily enjoying the company of Claudia’s
mother-in-law over lunch, Mila suddenly collapsed. She was transported by
helicopter to Denver University hospital where surgery was performed to
stop the hemorrhaging.
Dr. Art Goldberg (Mila’s husband), and
Eugene (Mila’s son) joined Claudia and Greg in the hospital. Our older sister,
Manang Nelly Rabara who got the news from Tina, and Dean Torres, our nephew
(Manang Perla’s son and Christina’s husband)) also decided to fly to Denver and
give company to Mila’s immediate family.
There was
never any doubt that Mila was surrounded by and with LOVE not only physically
but also virtually. I was very heartened by the fact that her nieces and
nephews in the group messaging with Claudia and Eugene, not only offered
prayers and expressions of love but also actually sent their texts, audio, and
video messages to their Auntie Mila. Claudia, Eugene, and Dean made sure
that Mila heard all of them while on Life Support. Included in the list, I was
able to read the running messages of all the cousins.
If Love, Faith, and Courage were great
companions to a Life Support, Mila certainly had it.
LOVE was
best reflected in Claudia’s words, “ I love you incredibly, mom.”
Also
Alice Duran Bryant’s, “Auntie
Mila will know we love her very much and will find peace on her journey.” As well as another niece, Lillian
Espanola’s, “She
will know how beloved she is to us all! “ Nephew Carlo Maynigo Bernabe’s words
was also as clear, “Auntie Mila is well loved, cherished and will be missed in
our hearts.”
FAITH was reaffirmed in the words of Eugene (Mila’s
son), “Tonight my mom peacefully made her way to heaven. Though her
illness was sudden, it comforts me to know this is part of God's plan. I
surrender to Him.”
Mila dancing with Eugene and Claudia |
COURAGE
was reiterated by
another nephew, Homer Rabara, “Auntie Mila is a fighter, she won't give up...”
and niece, Tanya Maynigo Loucks, “she’s a fighter, Yes!”
Mila and I were the youngest of eight children. We
grew up together fighting each other’s battles unconcerned and unafraid of the
odds. I still have the scars in my right arm caused by a barbed wire trying to
save her balloon that was stuck in a tree. Seeing her cry propelled me to
hurry up climbing the tree. I fell!
We
went to the same high school. Inspired and motivated by our parents and
siblings to achieve, I graduated as Valedictorian while Mila did as
Salutatorian in different Class Years, of course. We both duplicated the
achievements earlier of our two older sisters – Manang Loreto who graduated
Valedictorian, and Manang Nelly also as Salutatorian. The latter is now
my only surviving sibling. Our nephew Joey Maynigo who now resides in San Diego
also graduated as Valedictorian in the same school.
Both of us went to the two private schools in
Mendiola, Manila: she in the College of the Holy Spirit finishing an accounting
degree, and I in San Beda College obtaining AB and Law degrees.
She
was a brilliant CPA who became the Chief Accountant of the Philippine General
Hospital. I was always supportive of her endeavors as she was in mine either as
students or eventually as professionals.
When she immigrated to the U.S. she met and eventually
married Claude Denton, an Electronic Communications Engineer. My father-in-law,
former Senator and Foreign Affairs Secretary Raul S. Manglapus was one of the
wedding sponsors.
Claude
and Mila were loving and devoted parents to two children, Eugene and
Claudia who were raised to become great professionals who are following
equally great career paths. Eugene is now a scientist while Claudia is a U.S.
Air Force Major who had been stationed twice in Iraq.
Mila became a CPA in California and later on joined
the accounting department of the San Diego County government. She was
continuously promoted to higher positions and remained in the County until
her retirement. She also obtained an MBA while active in her
profession, as a county employee, and in community organizations. She
eventually became President or Officer of the organizations that she
joined.
When
Tina, Tanya (our eldest daughter) and I escaped from the Marcos dictatorship,
we eventually landed in the United States. Though living in different coasts,
Mila and I collaborated again. In Wasington, DC I was an active
leader of the Movement for a Free Philippines fighting against Marcos and
so was she in San Diego, California. When I became Executive Director of
the Asian Pacific American Chamber of Commerce (APACC), she and friend Cristina
Figueredo formed the most active chapter of the chamber. In fact, when
the San Diego Chapter hosted our national convention, it was the most
successful event APACC ever had. It generated a large financial surplus
unequaled by any other chapter.
Mila participated in all our APACC national
conventions – be they in Washington, DC, Honolulu, San Francisco, Los Angeles,
and other cities.
She
joined me in the Cory Aquino Movement and supported Manglapus in his successful
run for the Philippine Senate. She also became an informal adviser to the
latter when he became Secretary of Foreign Affairs. Mrs. Pacita Manglapus
used to say, “Mila always has Manglapus’ ears.” In fact, some think that she
had better access to Manglapus than I did.
When Mrs. Manglapus died, Mila flew all the way to
Manila to attend all the services and the funeral. Tina, the Manglapus family,
and I were very appreciative.
As
she was supportive of Manglapus and me in the successful presidential campaign
of Fidel Ramos, she was as helpful in the losing presidential campaign of my
fellow Bedan Raul Roco. She even sponsored a $1000 a plate dinner for
Raul Roco in San Diego.
As I have said earlier, my battles were her battles,
and hers were mine. Her adversaries became mine as I helped her devise
ways to turn them into allies. I have never seen anybody so focused in all her
undertakings.
Mila
was always a dreamer. God Almighty blessed her with the tools to fulfill
her dreams. I called them “Structured Dreams”. Left with real
properties due to the death of her late first husband, Claude, she converted
most of them into beautiful structures that became several times more valuable.
In fact, one property in Alpine, California was
converted into a villa and she called it “Villa Milagrosa”. The
villa and the other properties are being rented out.
While
she was lucky in wealth, she was as lucky in love. She met, fell in love
with, and eventually married Dr. Art Goldberg – a great man who also loved
her dearly.
Mila’s children, nieces, and nephews have expressed
their love for her. I am sure that many of them have correspondingly
experienced in some way her generosity. I will let them express it. I know
because she did it to my two daughters during their weddings. Mila was
a sponsor in both events.
Let
me quote my daughter Traci, “Rest
in peace, Auntie Mila. Your sudden passing yesterday came as we celebrated our
one-year wedding anniversary. I share pictures of you now at our wedding. We
were so honored to have you and Art there as our godparents. The world has lost
an amazing woman, known most of all for her energy and generosity. You will be
missed.”
One “Structured Dream” that we once shared involved a
property that she acquired via auction in Claude’s birthplace in Ringgold,
Georgia. It is a 50-acre land already surrounded by developed areas and
located along the Georgia Highway and about 15 minutes from Chattanooga,
Tennessee. I have visited the area. Across it is another property
that she inherited from Claude.
The
dream involved both properties. Mila had asked me to contact my developer
friends in Atlanta for a possible Joint Venture or financing to realize this
dream. I did but the financial collapse in 2007 stopped all plans.
Seen in the picture is a drawing of the proposed
project.
An "Structured Dream" |
Of
interest to her nieces and nephews was her desire for some of their generation
or the next to procure a townhouse/condo at the village at a heavily
discounted price – thus locating some members of the Gal-lang – Maynigo Clan in
one site. The Club House would be a family reunion place.
A day or two before she left for New Mexico and
Colorado, she called me about some things. One was for me to edit a letter to
the Ringgold City Council objecting to the conversion from the current
Commercial Zone to Industrial Zone as petitioned by a local developer. I
had drafted a similar letter for her years ago and successfully stopped the
change for environmental and other reasons. I edited her letter and sent
it back to her with the comment, “You did well.” I meant she had already
acquired a legal mind.
She
is an amazing woman of energy and generosity, a dreamer, a fighter, loved by
many, an achiever, and now a follower of God’s Plan.
She is MILAGROS
MAYNIGO DENTON GOLDBERG – my loving little sister! Our prayers go with you
as you enter the Gates of Heaven!
My deep condolences to my brother-in-law Art, nephew Eugene, niece Claudia and her husband Greg!